A space for love.

 

When you look into another persons’ eyes, what do you see?  Do you see a pure reflection of light, of respect, of compassion, of reverence?  Do you feel warm, do you feel comfort, do feel safe and secure?  Can you say anything that you want without worry of how they will receive it?  This is the space where love resides.  It is in this light that all thoughts have the power to manifest love into being.  Often times we think of love as just words.  If someone tells us that they love us, we like how that feels.  And yet sometimes, the words don’t always match the feelings in their eyes? 

If you look into someone’s eyes and you don’t see this love, how does that make you feel?  Do you feel mad, do you feel sad?  Do you feel like you have done something wrong?  In most cases, you will answer “yes”.  This is a space in which you need to heal because you feel as though you are unworthy of their love.  Stay with me for a minute…Maybe I can change your perspective and help to heal that feeling.  Maybe what you see in their eyes is in truth a lack of self-love?  And if they have a lack of self-love, how can they possibly show you love in their eyes?  That’s right, they can’t.  They can show you many things, but they can’t show you love.  They can’t make you feel loved!  They have too much anxiety and self-doubt clogging up their heart and emotions.

When this is understood, you will stop seeking their love, and you will stop questioning your own self-worth.  You will stop wondering WHY you don’t feel their love.  It isn’t that they don’t want to love, it is the fact that they don’t know how to love.  In this truth, in this knowing, you can choose a new direction.  Instead of trying to prove your worth to them, strive to show them how to love themselves.  Lift them up, encourage them to go within their heart to discover the love that is already there.  This can be done in a myriad of ways.  Focus on only uplifting and positive thoughts.  No judgement, no criticism!  We really don’t know what has caused them to withhold their love, and in most cases, I have found it is due to a childhood trauma.  These traumas often appear to be minor, however when enough of them compound on top of one another, they become mountains.  Have you ever gotten in trouble for NOT following orders?  Or were you ever spanked for “talking back” to your mother or father?  Maybe your parents didn’t listen to you when your feelings were hurt, and now you withhold your feelings for fear of not being heard again?  These are the traumas that need to be released.  They cannot be “swept under the rug”; they must be acknowledged and forgiven.  We must accept that it wasn’t that our parents didn’t love us, but instead we must realize that our parents were ignorant of how their actions affected us.  This ignorance caused a tremendous amount of suffering, and you are ready to heal this wound…In order to heal this trauma, you must vow to remove the ignorance from yourself!  You must become a positive force instead of a destructive one.  You will no longer harm another with your thoughts or your words.  You will no longer try to control others.  You will listen to their feelings and honor them.  You will recall the old saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it”.  The universe has a rule, what you put out, must be returned.  This is the Law of Cause & Effect.  Some call this Karma.  And many people say “Karma is a bitch”.  But the truth is, karma is the perfect representation of the Law of Cause & Effect!  Therefore, keep this law in your conscious awareness and respect the simplicity of it.  If you want to experience pain & suffering, send out negative thoughts.  But if you want to experience joy and happiness, send out positive and loving thoughts.  It really is this simple!