7 Steps to help balance your inner thoughts

 

7 Steps to help balance your inner thoughts

 

1.       Sit in silence and listen to the thoughts that come into your awareness

2.      Write them down, even if they are just bullet points, write down what was “flying” thru your mind

3.      How did it make you feel?

4.      Here comes the tough part – Why do you think that you feel the way that you do?  Why are you so uncomfortable with YOUR thoughts?

5.      “I don’t know” is not an answer – allow yourself to really discover the reasons that you feel the way that you feel?  Will you allow yourself to be very uncomfortable?  Will you allow yourself to be vulnerable?  It is good to cry.  It is even OK to be angry.  We must allow ourselves to FEEL if we are to understand why we feel the way that we do.

6.      All feelings are valid.  And NO one can tell you how you feel.  Only YOU know why you feel the way that you do.  If you don’t know why you feel the way that you feel, it is crucial for you to take the time to think about this.  Why are you afraid of your feelings?  Why do you feel guilty about your feelings?  Do you feel ashamed of your feelings? 

7.      Each question and answer requires us to be honest with ourselves.  We cannot worry about what someone else “MIGHT” think about our feelings.  We must allow ourselves to discover the root cause of our feelings.  An example of a feeling which has not been understood – you are upset at your wife b/c she no longer shows you affection.  You are angry with her, and therefore you speak unkind to her.  Why are you unkind?  B/c she isn’t giving you any lovin’.  And why do you think she would give you some lovin’ if you are mean to her?

a.      To get down deep into this, one must take responsibility for one’s own actions.  Do not project your actions (or re-actions) onto your wife.  You must see your actions for what they are and then you can begin to see the bigger picture. 

b.      If she doesn’t feel loved by you, why do you think she would give her love to someone that isn’t showing her love?

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

A space for love.

  When you look into another persons’ eyes, what do you see?   Do you see a pure reflection of light, of respect, of compassion, of reverence?   Do you feel warm, do you feel comfort, do feel safe and secure?   Can you say anything that you want without worry of how they will receive it?   This is the space where love resides.   It is in this light that all thoughts have the power to manifest love into being.   Often times we think of love as just words.   If someone tells us that they love us, we like how that feels.   And yet sometimes, the words don’t always match the feelings in their eyes?   If you look into someone’s eyes and you don’t see this love, how does that make you feel?   Do you feel mad, do you feel sad?   Do you feel like you have done something wrong?   In most cases, you will answer “yes”.   This is a space in which you need to heal because you feel as though you are unworthy of their love.  ...
Read more

Universal Laws and waking up!

  Consciousness Is being transformed right before our eyes.   With all of the revelations that have come out, and all that is about to be shared over the next few weeks/months, we are seeing a major transformation within people.   Those that have been “on the fence” about all of this are actually starting to believe it…and those whom have remained asleep and in denial, they are about to get a very rude awakening!   It will only feel this way to them, as it was their choice to remain blinded by their own ignorance!   No judgement – just truth.   I have had many years to gradually integrate these dark subjects.   For those that haven’t, the pain of TRUTH will create many internal and external outbursts!   Some people will find it hard to continue living.   The goal for those of us who are awake is to maintain situational awareness, be mindful of how others are reacting, and to hold space for them as they come to grips with the enormity of the...
Read more

Creating a new dream!

Every day feels more and more like a dream.  I spend almost all of my time alone, and within this space is the freedom to feel all of the energies swirling around in the “air”.  As I feel these energies, I am reminded of how we each must take responsibility for our reactions, and more specifically, our thoughts. The outer world is constantly influencing how we experience this life.   When something goes “wrong” we lash out, we blame, we call ourselves horrible names, and we call others even worse.   There are so many people speaking in such a negative way -   it is quite painful.   I hear how they perceive the world, I feel the words that they speak.   And then I wonder, “how are we going to change this behavior”?   How can I make a difference in how these people SEE the world?   And then, I step back and realize that the only way to really be of service to these people, is to show them the mirror of what is possible.   I am the mirr...
Read more