Love and The Law of One

 

When we see each other as divine souls, when we see one another as equals, we begin to change our thought processes regarding how others “act” out.  When we see someone cut us off in traffic, do we curse them?  Do we want revenge?  Or do we pull up beside them and shake our fingers or fists at them? 

Do these reactions represent love?  Not hardly!  So, what exactly are we doing when we react in such ways?  We are acting just like them!  We are not loving them; we are judging them.  And we are judging them very harshly.  What if instead of being upset at them, we simply get out of their way.  What if they just found out that their wife’s water just broke?  What if they just learned that their child is in the hospital?  Would we have more compassion for them IF we knew what was going on with them?  Of course we would.  The interesting thing to point out is this…our judgement is a reflection of ourselves.  This judgement is how we feel about ourselves.  And we project this judgement on to others based on what THEY did, never realizing this is how we feel about ourselves on the inside. 

When we are at peace within, we are able to find love within.  We understand that ALL of us have “shit” that happens.  We all understand that sometimes we are late, we are in a hurry, we have an emergency…we are all “guilty” of the exact same behaviors we are condemning.  Once you realize everyone has the same feelings, things begin to open up.  When you accept that some people are just in a bad place, you will stop judging them.  You see that they are in pain.  Instead of criticizing them, you have compassion for them.  You “feel” for them and you wish for them to find peace.  No one wants someone else to suffer.  And if you do, you are simply wishing for yourself to suffer.  If you live with resentment, or fear or other unhealed traumas you will want others to experience what you are experiencing because you want them to know how you feel.  You want others to feel your pain because you can’t figure out how to heal your pain.  Therefore, you play victim and HOPE that someone else will tell you how to heal yourself.  You also want someone else to do it for you.  This doesn’t work…but you aren’t ready to take responsibility for your actions, you like being a victim.  This may sound harsh, but it is how the Ego deals with pain.  It avoids it.  It doesn’t want to understand it.  It simply wants it to go away as fast as possible. 

How can something go away if that something is never understood?  That’s right, it can’t!  If you are given a mathematical word problem, you can’t just blurt out an answer, you have to fully understand the equation and the question so you can decide what steps need to be taken in order to solve the equation.  The same thing is true with healing your inner wounds and clearing your judgement.  The only way to do it is to put all the pieces down on paper and to look at each one individually.  Then you can see them with new eyes and begin to solve the equation.  

Now, back to the love equation.  When the ego has been “tamed” and your heart has been opened, you will no longer judge with criticism.  You will observe with compassion.  You will offer support, you will offer up “space” for them to merge into and you will do this with the knowing that we are all part of the ONE.  This is the service to others way! 

Within the “Law of One” it is understood that there are two types of people:  service to self (STS), and service to others (STO).  Those on the service to self path are in this world to reflect back to the others greed, lust, control, power etc.  while those on the service to others path will reflect back compassion, kindness, nurturing, empathy and love.  Those on the STS path will often times see those on the STO path as weak.  They will attempt to use this perceived weakness to their advantage.  If they see the STO person as an easy target they will use them as their energy slave.  They love the way you feel, they love the way you “give”, they love how you make them feel.  They do NOT understand any of this.  They do not care about you…they just like how the world feels when you are in it! 

The challenge for the STO person is to hold strong to your beliefs but not give away your power.  You must stay in the observer mode and NOT take on the STS person’s problems.  If they are always whining, if they are always complaining, leave them be.  Do not try to “save” them.  This is not your responsibility…and besides, you can’t save someone else anyway!  Only you can save yourself.  So, when you have someone acting like a leech, or acting like a child or acting entitled or whatever other description you can insert here, which is ego self-centered poo, understand this is where you must NOT give away your power.  You must accept that you can guide them towards truth, but you can’t make them change.  They must SEE their choices and take the time to understand them.  If they aren’t interested in helping themselves…why do YOU waste your time trying to help them?

This may sound harsh but it is better to cut your losses (regardless of how much time you have vested in the relationship) than to try and change someone else.  We must accept one another as they are, not how we WISH them to be.  We are not supposed to change anyone but ourselves.  When we find others that “FEEL” good, we should honor them, nurture them, guide them and admire them.  These are our people!  If people don’t feel good, we should let them go!  In the letting go process, we should not criticize them…we should explain that our energies are not in alignment and that it is time for a change.  Do your best NOT to break a bridge.  One day they may return, or you may NEED there help one day.  Instead of severing the connection in a harsh and critical manner, simply allow it to fade away.   If they ask you why you don’t call anymore, or why you don’t hang out anymore…simply tell them that you have other things going on in your life.  You are busy, you are learning new things or whatever you can think of which is TRUE and generic.  These people like to argue, so the more benign you are the less they have to attach to and argue about.  The idea is to send others on their way without creating a negative karmic situation.  Others cannot be mad at you if you explain that you are focusing on yourself right now.  Others can’t be critical of you when you cause THEM no harm.  They can feel sad that you aren’t around, they can feel “sorry for you” because they “think” what you are going through is hard.  The truth is, you are bettering yourself by removing them from your life.  And this Is something that they don’t need to be told.  They simply have to experience life without you…and that is punishment enough!  They no longer are in receipt of your love.

There is much more to write about in terms of unconditional love.  This is only possible as a service to others soul.  The whole of the universe in based in this one truth:  We are One!  Our creator (and there is ONLY one) created everything.  Knowing this, it SHOULD be easy to understand that we are all part of the one.  If we are all part of the one which created us, why would be angry at the one for anything we experience?  Shouldn’t we view life as the ultimate learning experience?  Shouldn’t we see life as a never ending journey?  I mean, here we are on planet Earth…we are only here for a brief period.  On average less than 100 years.  So, if we only have 100 years to live on this beautiful planet, shouldn’t we be excited about life?  Shouldn’t we want to see and experience as much of this world as we can?  Why do we limit ourselves?  Why do we have so many ridiculous jobs which prevent our expansion and understanding of the cosmos?  Why are we not taught any of this? 

When I was a child I had many friends.  Some of them were athletic, some were more artsy.  I liked both.  I didn’t try to make my artsy friends into athletes.  I accepted them for who they were.  I enjoyed the perspective of both.  Each one felt completely unique and provided me with a perspective that the other could not provide.  I am grateful for this.  Now that I am older, I value our differences even more. 

In order for us to grow and evolve, we need to have our own opinions and belief systems, while remaining open to others’ opinions and beliefs.  The only way for us to KNOW if our opinions are “right (for us)” we need to hear alternate perspectives so we can gauge them with our own.  If we all think the same way, we have no way to evolve.  Knowing this SHOULD help to remove our judgement of others and instead invite in tolerance and acceptance.   There is NO need to argue a difference of opinion.  There is only a need to accept it, and to understand it.  I am not talking about what someone’s favorite food is, or anything of a superficial nature.  I mean others’ opinions about life, and the meaning of it all.  If we have not contemplated life, we should.  How else will we ever learn what the purpose is? 

We have been trained/programmed to just work, have a family and die.  This is very simplified, but nonetheless the basic core of today’s society.  Grow up, get a job, have a family, acquire as much money and stuff as you can…and then die and pass those material things onto the next generation.   Doesn’t this sound like a joke?  Doesn’t it sound like something is missing?  Where is the awareness of source?  Where is the conversation about the purpose of life?  Where does one find a higher understanding of this journey?

In the knowing of the ONE, it should also be understood that the ONE can do anything it wants.  It doesn’t have to believe anything, it is everything.  Therefore, can you understand that you are part of the one?  Will you allow yourself to accept that you are a divine spark of the creator?  If you are born of the creator, you are the creator.  But, in order for you to be the creator, you must learn all that the creator knows.  You must learn all aspects of consciousness.  The only way to know this, is to experience it!  When we have accepted our connection with source, we will cultivate a new way.  A new life, and new relationships.  We will see all as equals.  We will understand that we are all ascending to the realization of the one.  In this ascension cycle there are many pitfalls and traps…but there are also major victories and love abounds.  All we have to do is invite it in!  No more doubts!  No more fears or what if’s!  Our creator does not make mistakes.  And neither do we!  Instead our mistakes are our opportunities to learn.  The more we learn, the more we evolve.  Eventually, we learn how to be a full fledged co-creator with peace, harmony, balance and love for all!